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Non Voilence…..

January 18, 2006 Leave a comment Go to comments

Got this message from a friend, thougth its worth remembering , so put it up here…..

Dr. Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mahatma Gandhi and founder of the M.K.Gandhi Institute for Non-violence, in his June 9 lecture at the University of Puerto Rico, shared the following story as an example of “non-violence in parenting”:

“I was 16 years old and living with my parents at the institute my grandfather had founded 18 miles outside of Durban, South Africa, in the middle of the sugar plantations. We were deep in the country and had no neighbors, so my two sisters and I would always look forward to going to town to visit friends or go to the movies.

One day, my father asked me to drive him to town for an all-day conference, and I jumped at the chance. Since I was going to town, my mother gave me a list of groceries she needed and, since I had all day in town, my father ask me to take care of several pending chores, such as getting the car serviced. When I dropped my father off that morning, he said, ‘I will meet you here at 5:00 p.m., and we will go home together.’

After hurriedly completing my chores, I went straight to the nearest movie theatre. I got so engrossed in a John Wayne double-feature that I forgot the time. It was 5:30 before I remembered. By the time I ran to the garage and got the car and hurried to where my father was waiting for me, it was almost 6:00.

He anxiously asked me, ‘Why were you late?’ I was so ashamed of telling him I was watching a John Wayne western movie that I said, ‘The car wasn’t ready, so I had to wait,’ not realizing that he had already called the garage. When he caught me in the lie, he said: ‘There’s something wrong in the way I brought you up that didn’t give you the confidence to tell me the truth. In order to figure out where I went wrong with you, I’m going to walk home 18 miles and think about it.’

So, dressed in his suit and dress shoes, he began to walk home in the dark on mostly unpaved, unlit roads. I couldn’t leave him, so for five-and-a-half hours I drove behind him, watching my father go through this agony for a stupid lie that I uttered.

I decided then and there that I was never going to lie again. I often think about that episode and wonder, if he had punished me the way we punish our children, whether I would have learned a lesson at all. I don’t think so. I would have suffered the punishment and gone on doing the same thing. But this single non-violent action was so powerful that it is still as if it happened yesterday. That is the power of non-violence.”

Courtesy : Navya ( Thanks a load 🙂 )

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  1. Rashmi
    January 19, 2006 at 10:33 am

    Hey this is a really nice article.Sometimes u know when u do a mistake and the person scolds u,u often tend to repeat that mistake.We all have a rebellious streak in us,i guess…:)Its when u get punished in a different manner,more often that look of hurt on the other person’s face or just a few words that touch ur heart….they are what will ensure that mistake is not done again.

  2. hk
    March 23, 2006 at 5:09 pm

    Sorry for the delay in replying …..

    Hate to disagree abt what u say…..but its worse at times isn’t it…..like when someone goes silent …..What say ? 🙂

  3. Rashmi
    March 23, 2006 at 11:37 pm

    Very true!!!!!Silence is more painful than words.And worse it can mean so many things.U dont know what to interpret it as..But what to do, people dont realise its better and easier if people are frank and tell directly rather than bottle it up:):)

  4. hk
    March 24, 2006 at 12:47 pm

    Its not about bottling it up, it just one of the ways a few of them resolve their issues…..more often than ever ppl just burst out with their anger or dislike with their rude words or behavior without realising the actual reason ( let alone the consequences ) behind an issue they r confronting….which is immature….i am not trying to say going silent is mature or sane … but it sure gives a lota time for both the individuals involved to think and identify the problem …. if the problem still exists then i guess its always better to exchange a dialogue ..or may b …even a fist 😉

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