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Change…..

“ OMG !! He has changed !! “ , “ You have changed !! “ ….. this is something I have heard too many a times ….. pretty consistently off-late !!! more so from people I expected it the least from …..

Giving the whole thing a serious thought, was pondering over many statements made by a whole bunch of my friends under various circumstances over a period of time , the first thing that occurred to me was if I was behaving any different from my previous self ? ( Oh yeah !!! I was ….. if not from my point of view atleast.. )

But then most people will simply act out their raw instincts, it is doubtful whether i have changed at all in my basic intuitive perceptions or what most people call basic instincts.

Now then , even if I have ,is it for the good or the bad ? “Who” is defining good and bad in this case ? Good and bad as I see are labels placed on how well an individual’s behaviour conforms to societal expectations…… so whats good for one may not be for another …

For a moment even if I agree that I have “ changed “ , “what” or “who” brought in this change? Was it an incident or a person? Neither I guess….. For all those who hav known me who could probably point at a couple of incidences or people and incidences put together and suggest that these were what have caused the change, I wudnt rule it out …..

The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.

They say that time changes things, it changes ppl , I don’t think so , you have to change them yourself. But worse yet a few go that extra mile to accuse a non existent girl for all the change !!! 🙂 How funnier could it possibly get ?? So , or the good or bad , if I hav changed , guys …..I get the credit !! 🙂 ( identity crisis ha …. 😦 )

Still remember these words that resound in my head as I first heard them from a dear friend of mine ,exhort in despair “ Change is the law of nature “ …..circle-of-trust.gif

And things just don’t end here ..… when someone you like switches from what a person said/did/behaved or simply put “ used to be ” a year ago, he/she is a broad-minded person who has courage enough to change his/her mind with changing conditions!! On the contrary a person you don't like does it, he/she is fickle, too flexible…. Or better said “ He/She has changed !!” WTF !!! For all those falling into this category… I just have this to say … the pic right here is just for u !!

 

On a philosophical note,

“To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly. “ ( ……..am at peace after reading this 🙂 )

We are not born all at once, we don’t learn to live right from the start , we learn it by bits, one small one at a time…..Thinking of which reminds me that change is inevitable . . . adapting to change is unavoidable, it's how you do it that sets you together or apart.

 

That's the risk you take if you change: that people you've been involved with won't like the new you. But other people who do will come along. Just because certain things are different doesn't mean that it has changed.

For all those who think I hav changed, the real me back here is just the same, and for those who r just fine with the change… welcome to the all new me !!

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  1. May 8, 2006 at 4:50 pm

    You know of course if you didn’t change the same people will say “how boring, s/he never changes”

  2. May 8, 2006 at 6:44 pm

    yet a few go that extra mile to accuse a non existent girl for all the change !!!
    LOL, its even more fun if they blame a girl who very much exists and they even go ahead and tell you what you feel about that person 😛

    I hv learnt that change is inevitable… the more you run away from it the faster it gets to you.

    I wake up every day asking my self “What new thing am i going to do today?” Ever since I started doing that I hv begun loving life 🙂

    Dude the only thing common between the “old you” and the “new you” is you and that is the only difference too 😛

  3. hk
    May 9, 2006 at 5:41 pm

    Haas :
    " ….its even more fun if they blame a girl who very much exists and they even go ahead and tell you what you feel about that person  ……….." ….. experience ha ? 😉 … god forbid haas !! i am lucky that way!!

    " …..the only thing common between the “old you” and the “new you” is you and that is the only difference too " ….. well said and very true!! 🙂

    Mr Angry :

    It amazes me to see the influence of emotions on humans relating to one another … formal / inormal … 

  4. Anonymous
    May 19, 2006 at 5:30 pm

    What abt u?havent u ever thought that someone has changed??;);)what were ur thoughts then?did u feel good or bad that the person has changed?can u accept it if ur friends change??

  5. hk
    May 20, 2006 at 12:14 am

    There are two ways i look at it , ppl who consciously change , and ppl who do it without their knowledge. In the later , the "changes" develop gradually over a period of time with it becoming a part of their nature/character seemlessly, while in the former , its just a layer on top of their true self ….. i think now i am able to tell the difference . And i guess nobody shud hav a problem "accepting" a friend just cos he/she changed…..

  6. Anonymous
    May 23, 2006 at 12:25 pm

    why is it wrong if people consciously change?

  7. hk
    May 24, 2006 at 10:11 pm

    i dont think its wrong if ppl change ….. consciously or otherwise …..

  8. Resh
    June 23, 2006 at 12:14 pm

    wow.. i didnt know u took what everyone said about you changing so seriously!! Anyway.. nice post.. i esp like this part “That’s the risk you take if you change: that people you’ve been involved with won’t like the new you. But other people who do will come along”

    except i dont see it as a risk.. if they dont like the new you.. then maybe you wer wrong about them in the first place and that you have got to move on.. its an edge/advantage

    P.S: the new you is def better

  9. hk
    June 25, 2006 at 2:55 pm

    i am not as critical as the blog post turns out to make me look ….. but nonethe less was giving the whole thing a thought…..

    at times i get confused !! if i am wrong abt them or vice versa !! 🙂

    "P.S: the new you is def better" 😀 thank u !!

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